BlogHer Book Club: Diary of a Submissive

I love the BlogHer Book Club. Because while the books sent to me straight from the publisher & the lil bit of cash {which helps me feel better about splurging on fancy gelato} are nice, BHBC also pushes me to read things outside of my norm. Outside my comfort zone if you will. I wouldn’t have picked up Theodora. Or Daring Greatly.

And most certainly not Diary of a Submissive by Sophie Morgan. But because I don’t mind reading something different {& yes, so I don’t want to miss out on a book}, I sometimes hit send on the form before I really read the description. I felt slightly uncomfortable later on just reading the description. In a what-have-I-gotten-myself-into-&-yet-I’m-curious kind of way.

Diary of a Submissive arrived just as I’d finished Matched {where kissing was oh-so-scandalous}. I threw it in my pumping-at-work bag & in the hour & a half a day I sit in the pumping room, I read Sophie’s memoir about her sexual tendencies.

I don’t blush much & have read a bit of smut before, but just the first few chapters had me running on Facebook to tell friends in a group that I was in over my head.

I haven’t read this summer’s much discussed Fifty Shades of Grey. Because I’d heard it was a lil crazy & a lil cheesy & not so well written. & hello, I had two newborns & very little to no time to read smut this summer.

I believe Diary of a Submissive takes Fifty Shades & turns it into 100 shades of making Suz blush & feel uncomfortable to the point of wanting to stop reading. But I read it. I had to know how a seemingly normal 30-something lived this life & why & how.

Would I recommend it to all my friends & family? No, remember I live in the Bible belt states for goodness sakes. But it was interesting; kinda like watching something super foreign on National Geography is interesting. Happy to never go there, okay that you now know more about it.

I know the discussion on Diary of a Submissive will be quite interesting. Jump on over to BlogHer Book Club Diary of a Submissive for more specifics.

I was compensated for this BlogHer Book Club review but all opinions expressed are my own.

BlogHer Book Club: Matched

Matched by Ally Condie is young adult fiction and runs along the Hunger Games type of fiction. After some recent serious reads {Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter & Daring Greatly}, it was a refreshing change to have an easy read while I pumped away at work.

Matched is the first in a trilogy about Cassia, a seventeen year old girl on the cusp of adulthood & learning more & more everyday what that means. It’s set in a future North America where the government {aka Society} controls everything, what you eat, your job, which books/songs the citizens still have access to, even down to who you will marry aka be Matched with. The story begins at Cassia’s Matching ceremony on her seventeenth birthday just days before her precious grandfather’s Final ceremony.

While the government control {& possible future rebellion} is mentioned frequently in Matched, the focus of the story is Cassia & her love triangle. The childhood boy best friend Xander & the mysterious Ky who she’s learning more & more about.

I won’t give away too many spoilers, but suffice to say that I enjoy Matched a lot. So much so that I immediately upon finishing, jumped on my library’s website & requested Crossed, the  next in the series.

I’m intrigued to see where Crossed takes the story. I’d love to know more about how the society & government got from where we are today to total control. Can you imagine there only being 100 books? 100 songs? And I want to know more about the three emergency tablets to which all citizens are assigned.

You can join our BlogHer Book Club Matched discussion. I’ll be throwing out my two cents there too.

This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club but the opinions expressed are entirely my own.

BlogHer Book Club: Daring Greatly

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown was a bit tough for me.

I’m used to fiction. Where I can almost skim pages while also watching TV, care for babies, nursing or pumping at work. Where I can escape in the flow of words on a page.

But Brene Brown’s non-fiction, I guess really a self-help book, required thought. It’s not just because she’s covering a lot of research topics but because it takes what you think you know or think about everyday relationships & interactions and forces you to explore within yourself. I couldn’t skim words because then I’d miss a main point. I didn’t want to miss anything.

Daring Greatly refers to really putting yourself out there. Your real open-for-all-to-see-you-naked self. Being Wholehearted & vulnerable. I learned how it really takes courage & hard work to shake off the layers we use to protect ourselves, to fight off using shame to keep relationships at bay, to be vulnerable.

As a college sociology major, I related to her research & discussion on how men & women view shame, relationships/sex & vulnerability differently. There were so many places in the book where I was nodding along, mentally going ‘yes, I’ve done that, seen friends do that, my husband act that way & I now more clearly see why’.

Daring Greatly isn’t an easy read, but it’s a book I think I’ll hold on to. That I’ll pick up again as the babies get older & I need to more clearly show them that being a truely strong, healthy little example of feminine & masculine doesn’t mean to follow the definitions socity has created, but instead for them to be open & vulnerbale & real. God, I hope I can live up to that task.

Feel free to read more about Daring Greatly & join in the discussion at the BlogHer Book Club page.

This is a paid review for BlogHer Book CLub but the opinions expressed are my own.

Blogher Book Club: What Alice Forgot

When What Alice Forgot arrived at my doorstep, I thought two things ~ this book is thick & I’m so glad its more of a ‘chick lit’ light read. I’d been reading either heavy books for my local book club or pouring through multiples & breastfeeding books. I knew in my sleep deprived state, I couldn’t handle anything I had to think too hard about.

And what happened as I was reading What Alice Forgot, I got less sleep because I skipped naps in favor of reading. It was that good & I just had to know how it turned out.

What Alice Forgot tells the story of Alice Love, who wakes up on the gym floor thinking its 1998, shes 29, happily married & pregnant with her first child. But actually, its 2008, she’s 39, has 3 kids & getting a divorce {& she remembers nothing of the last 10 years}. The book tells the story of how she got from one place in life to the other. The 29 year old Alice reminded me of my recent former self, but I could understand & see how the 39 year old Alice got there.

The novel is told through Alice’s perspective but has letters that Alice’s sister Elizabeth writes to her therapist {helping her deal with her infertility struggle which hit close to home with me} and also letters their ‘grandmother’ Fannie writes to an old boyfriend {loved feisty Fannie!}. I enjoyed the others’ perspectives. Seeing Alice & her memory loss through them helped clue me in to what she’d gone through.

I really enjoyed this novel. I thought it was a quick, fun read & I’m looking forward to hearing what others thought of the book. For more discussion on What Alice Forgot, jump on over to the BlogHer Book Club page for the book.

This is a sponsored post from BlogHer Book Club, but the thoughts & opinions are my own.

BlogHer Book Club: Where She Went

Where She Went by Gayle Forman is actually the sequel to If I Stay. So in the last week (actually two weeks ago now), I read both. I couldn’t put either down; reading If I Stay as a library e-book from my phone Fri & Sun then finishing Where She Went in the hospital last Wednesday. These books are written under the young adult genre but are not quite as fluffy as somethings that ‘YA’ might lead you to believe.

Both IIS & WSW, describe the story of two musicians, Mia & Adam. Mia is a talented classic cellist while Adam is in a rock band called Shooting Stars. IIS is set in Oregon, from Mia’s point of view & mostly involves the story of her & Adam coming together as a couple, her family & the aftermath of a horrific car accident. WSW picks up on Adam & Mia’s lives but three years after the accident & told from Adam’s perspective, mostly taking place in NYC.

I really liked them both for what they are: entertaining quick reads. But Where She Went brought me to tears. I really didn’t want the book to end. In the way back of the novel though, there’s a glimpse at what I hope is a third!

BlogHer Book Club will be discussing Where She Went. Join in talking your thoughts on the book at http://www.blogher.com/bookclub/now-reading-where-she-went.

I was provided a copy of Where She Went & compensated for this post as part of the BlogHer Book Club, but my thoughts & opinions are all my own.