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Patience & Forgiveness

I just read my sweet friend Suzanne’s post on asking for patience in the morning & forgiveness in the evening after a day with her two daughters. And it got me thinking.

I can honestly say that before having children, I thought some kids were annoying. And even though I dreamed of being a teacher when I was little, by middle school, I knew I didn’t have the patience to deal with kids all day. But I’d been told over & over that it all changes when they’re your own children. That their craziness & poops & squeals & farts are cute.

And seven weeks in, I can say that most of the time, I think they’re super cute & precious & I’m thankful they’re here. My thankfulness & love overpowers frustration.

But there are moments like the ones Suzanne mentioned, where both babies are screaming for attention, when I’m literally being pulled two different ways, that I can feel my patience flying out the window. It’s in those moments, usually after VERY little sleep, that I get annoyed with the babies. Yes, even in typing it I know it’s ridiculous. Annoyed that even though I just finished a forty minute nursing session, that they wake up hungry as soon as I start pumping, or while I’m trying to give attention to the other baby. Or the screaming when they have fresh diaper & full belly & I *just* laid down to try to get a 30 minute nap. I don’t think this is PPD or anything for y’all to be worried over, but these moments of being overwhelmed do alert me that I need a quick break.

Those moments are the ones that make me thankful to have Jason &/or family help as a second pair of arms. Thankful that I have help enough that I’m able to recharge with a shower or a nap & come back to the babies with patience & loving arms. Knowing that they’ll forgive me for being short, for not answering their screams with coos & a song, & knowing that I can do better the next time. That I can, like Suzanne, stop {& continue} to ask for patience & forgiveness.

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A Day in my Life

Quick run through of a typical day with 6 week old twins. {This is Thurs 7/5}

1230a- Suz wake up from nap, grab a lemon muffin, start breastfeeding Lucy soon after.
130a- done breastfeeding, dress & change Lucy. Put her kangaroo style for snuggling. Play online on my phone as husband watches tv {we should be napping}
2a- Lucy & I snuggle & snooze a little
3a- put L down & pick up Zach. Change his diaper, undress & nurse him.
4a- holding Z, getting ready to pump when we realize L is waking up hungry. Give L to husband, change L’s diaper, undress her, start her nursing.
5a- my grandmother woke up so we sent Jason to bed. I gave L to Nana to rock & pumped.
615a- L woke up from her rock-n-play hungry! It’d only been an hour or so since I’d pumped but I tried nursing her.
645a- Z woke up to nurse & L was still going but upset. Z got upset too. So Nana heated up a bottle to split between them. They were freaking so much they weren’t eating well, so I woke Jason up to help.
8a- finally got them settled back down. Jason went to bed & I catnapped on the couch.
10a- Started feeding Z a lil before 10 then added L 1020. Both nursed really well. I ate a quick snack & pumped after they were done.
11a- Babies & I napped for a bit.
1230p- Z woke up to eat. Nana fixed me a sandwich.
120p- L woke up & nursed. Nice to have calm, individual nursing sessions.
2p- pumped, Jason woke up.
3p- I napped in bed from 3-5ish. Jason gave the babies fortified bottles around 3.
545p- I nursed both starting a lil before 6.
630p- Bath time. Zach, then Lucy.
7p- both cueing after bath so ‘top off’ nursed them to milk coma status.
730p- Sleeping babies {L in J’s then my arms}, so we ate dinner.
9p- tandem nursed both babies, Nana went to bed, I pumped.
11p- nursed Lucy.
1130p- nursed Z.

And I’m stopping there even though my night kept up until I got a nap after 3a bottle feeding. Are you exhausted yet?!

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Feeding the Babes {part two}

I’ve been on demand feeding the babies since they arrived home a couple of weeks ago. We try to keep them on the same schedule {it makes nights so much easier}, but that doesn’t always work.

They tend to sleep in between feedings, so whoever wakes up first gets put on the boob first. We change their diapers & get them otherwise naked to eat; they stay awake & eat more effectively that way. Plus both drool & make a mess so we go through less clothes if they eat undressed. I will typically start whoever woke first in the cradle hold, on the opposite breast they last ate from. When the other baby is awake & changed {by husband or family helper}, I’ll switch first eater to football hold & put the other on. Only exception to this is if Zach is eating well, he’s small enough to leave in cradle hold & just put Lucy on football.

Lucy & Zach don’t mind being repositioned mid-feed. They also don’t have left/right boob preference {thank goodness}. But like all the multiples books I read said, they are two different people {duh} & thus totally different feeding styles, preferences & issues. As of right now, Lucy is easier to feed. Just put the boob in her vicinity & she’s pretty good. She might need a little encouragement to keep eating & stay awake after a few minutes but rubbing her head or shoulder will do the trick. I cut them off after 30-40 mins, especially L. Zach {who’s still much littler}, has a harder time sometimes. Both still are using the nipple shields, but Zach flails his arms at first {he’s usually been crying &/or excited} so he frequently knocks off the shield. Knocking it off just makes him more upset, poor buddy. But once he’s latched, he’s pretty good.

I’ve been told, by NICU, pediatrician, LCs & books, that they’ll get to be more effective & efficient eaters by their due date {July 1}. I’m looking forward to seeing what that means. Hopefully less time on the breasts & that we’ll be able to lose the shields soon.

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So Much, So Little Time

I figured post babies I’d keep up with the blog. I’d fill this place up with stories & photos. & I plan to. I have four plus posts in draft on breastfeeding, me post babies, updated photos, a day in our life. But when there’s down time, & I can chose a 30 minute nap or pulling out the laptop/camera to upload pictures, I’ve been choosing nap. My dark circles thank you for baring with me.