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Everything Else Reading

Secret Daughter & How to Be an American Housewife

I finished Secret Daughter by Shilpi Somaya Gowda back in September. I realized last week that I had yet to share my thoughts here. This book was my book club’s October pick. I think as a whole we liked it.

None of us have ever traveled to India, so the parts that described India, it’s culture, especially involving the lives of women were very interesting. The big city life & such wide range of poverty & richness were fascinating.

Of course the struggle to be a mother & then the discussion of what defines a mother captured my heart. It seems I’m finding infertility&  pregnancy every where these days. My book club friends & I wondered if we could do what the mothers in this novel did ~ they’re strength is remarkable in such different ways.

We spoke in book club how such different pictures of marriage were depicted in this novel & we debated who’s was better or stronger.

I enjoyed Secret Daughter a lot. I liked the back & forth narrative between the characters & because of that, by the end I felt I really connected with each of the main female characters. I’d definitely recommend this to women’s book clubs or it read on your own.

Just to put it out there, this is not a paid review; I wasn’t chosen to be part of BlogHer’s How to Be an American Housewife Book Club {sad face}. But I’d heard it was good from a bunch of other places too & it was a short list at the library, so I was looking forward to reading the book.

I finished How To Be An American Housewife by Margaret Dilloway while I was in Edenton two weeks ago. I zoomed through it in just four nights {I might’ve stayed up until past midnight that Thursday because I had to know what happened}. Margaret did a great job {at least I thought so} making me feel what it would be like to be thrown into the life on an American housewife in post-WWII. I’d never really pondered the thought of the American way of cleaning, housekeeping, child-raising, cooking & what a wild experience that must look to someone from another country.

My favorite part~ that we followed Shocko’s story right up to the climax, then Margaret switched things on us as the readers. I loved following along with the story from all the perspectives.

Again this novel is Asian based. I was telling friends last weekend that I’ve read more books this year either with Asian characters &/or set in Japan or China. I’ve learned so much about these cultures & their history that I haven’t been bored. In fact, up next is another Asian book, the sequel to Shanghai Girls, Dreams of Joy which is my book club’s December pick.

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Trying To Conceive

Infertility & Marriage

This has been on my mind this week. You know how “they” say, “distance makes the heart grow fonder”. It’s true. Three weeks away from husband in the past five weeks & he’s worked those weekends that I have been home. I’ve missed him & am glad we have next couple weekends together.

That said. What I’ve really been thinking about is how infertility, really TTC in general, changes a marriage. Some of the changes are good. Some are
bad. Some are just changes.

I’m less naive & maybe more cynical. Husband has always been a bit of both. I guess we now mesh well in that area.

There’s times when I look at Jason with Moekitty or around other kids & my heart swells with love & bursts with sadness that I haven’t been able to give us that future baby yet.

Infertility has forced us both to be patient. We knew things happen in God’s time, not ours, but it’s the working through months of waiting & trying that test that mindset and is something that’s been in my thoughts & prayers a lot recently. We learned to be patient with each other, with doctors, with our bodies & what they do or don’t do.

There have been times I look at Husband as the “giver of the buddies” more than the beloved husband. He’s good at calling me on that one ~ and I’m glad when he does & snaps me back from being that infertile-zilla {you know, like a bride-zilla but for the wanna-be-baby-maker}.

Infertility has made us speak more deeply. About our future hopes & dreams. About our ideas in baby-raising. About finances. About just how far we’re willing to go to have a child. Tough conversations but oh so important ones.

These & all the over changes I’ve mistakenly left off this list will make it even the more sweet when that long awaited BFP occurs.

I missed last Friday as an Infertile Friday {I was a little busy at my brother’s wedding}. So I’m calling this Infertile Monday. How is/has/did TTC &/or infertility change your marriage?

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Food Photography

42nd Week in Photos

Forty-two weeks into my project 365. This is not the most exciting week in photos as I’d returned home, unpacked & repacked for a long weekend away celebrating the wedding of my brother & new sister-in-law yesterday. There will be many wedding photo posts to come this week. For now, here’s my low-key last week.

Day 288: Saturday night after I got  my hair trimmed & highlighted, I was reminded by my friend Kelly of our friends Mike & Sarah’s homewarming party that night. I threw together the turkey cranberry pinwheels, Kelly made those amazing spinach artichoke squares, & away we went {Jason worked so I was again their third wheel}. Thanks to wine left-over from their June wedding, the drinks were flowing & their beautiful house was nicely broken in!

Party time!

Day 289: Sunday, while husband was again working, I went to church, a walk/jog around a local lake, met friends for fro-yo, shopped for dinner at The Meat House, did laundry & cooked chicken for me & steak tips for husband. What I didn’t do? Take a single photo.

Day 290: I returned home Monday night exhausted from my first day back in 10 days to find Moe hiding out under the desk on the computer chair he has commandeered. Love that not-so-little guy.

Moekitty: I'm hiding. You can't see me.

Day 291: After a dinner of stuffed chicken breasts {also from The Meat House}, I took photo of these recent reads. Looks for new books posts on them soon.

current reads

Day 292: All packed & ready to go Wednesday. I don’t think Moe knew he was going to be home alone for four days.

Not planned but loving the polkda'd bags.

Day 293: Thursday began the wedding weekend festivities. How cool was the view from the presidental suite which served as Thursday’s cocktail party location & the bridal suite for the weekend?!

Brother & Seneca starting the celebration

Day 294: Friday was busy & deserves a post of it’s own {coming later this week I hope}. But here’s a preview of the fun with my last photos of the night of some of our favorite family friends Katie & Matt {with their new friend}.

This is why Katie & Matt are awesome!

How was your week?

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Family/Travel

MoeKitty

I was going to save this photo for next week’s project 365, but I couldn’t wait to share it. I was showing it off to friends at a house warming party Saturday night {that’s what you do before kids, brag about how big your cat is} as I’d taken this right before I left to go there. They thought it was one of those fake internet cats. Nope, I assured them, this is MoeKitty in his finest cat bath mode with his red collar & chub rolls displayed. I love my fat old man cat!

Suz, this stays between us right?

 

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Trying To Conceive

Post-IUI Two Week Wait

I haven’t posted at all about my IUI since my pre-IUI Infertile Friday. I haven’t responded to any of the sweet comments from that post because I couldn’t without crying. I so felt the love that Friday & Saturday & as always, am so thankful for the e-support.

I’m both at a loss for words {maybe a first} & have been a bit overwhelmed at knowing where to start typing about my IUI & feelings since. This will be rambling, but it’s my blog right, so I can ramble here?!

Last Saturday morning {before the family football fun}, Jason went to the RE & did his thing. I arrived {with my mom as my driver} about an hour later. I was taken back to a small room, & while Mom offered to go with me to hold my hand but I ultimately decided that’d be too weird. I was thrilled to see one of my favorite nurses walk in. I was already put at ease just knowing it was her doing it. I signed the same forms under my husband’s name & was told everything looked great with 45 million freshly washed sperm.

The procedure itself was more painful than I’d heard, but after my experience at the cervix dilation I was afraid it would be. I clenched my teeth & fists as she finally found the opening & insert in the catheter. It didn’t take very long {maybe a few minutes?} before she was done & we were chatting. She answered my questions: that it was fine for me to go to the game & walk around, to take Tylenol for the cramps that would happen {they sure did}, that the sperm wouldn’t leak out but to wear a pad because the pink liquid they wash them in might leak {it did}, that I might spot a little & that was normal for all the poking around she’d done {I did}. She said the sperm would find there way & the connection would happen within three minutes but she had me stay laying down for 10-15 minutes.

After I got up & redressed, I paid my $$$ & met my mom in the waiting room. I was very thankful that she was there to drive me home {Jason had to go straight from his appointment to work} as I was too uncomfortable to drive. We were home around 9 & luckily for me, the tailgaters weren’t arriving until 11:15 so I spent about an hour & half on the couch in my yoga pants & Tshirt before having to change.

How have I been feeling in this past week or so? Good. The cramping from the IUI itself went away by Saturday afternoon & I was all better Sunday. I did the Ovridrel booster shot while I was in Edenton last Tuesday & began the progesterone last Monday. I’ve been feeling a little bloated, but I can’t be sure if that’s from all the food I ate last week, from the booster Ovridrel or from possible future baby. I’ve also had sensitivity in my breasts which is a little normal for PMS time but I’ve never experience to this degree {it was painful trying to run & I’ve been woken up by it at night if I’m on my stomach}. I felt a few twinges in the middle of last week. Implantation? Gas? I’ve been kinda light-headed or queasy if I don’t drink enough water or wait a long time to eat.

Are these early pregnancy signs? Yes. Am I a bit paranoid & over-analyzing every little thing? Also yes. Time will tell sooner than later as this 2WW should end soon.